Have you thought about giving up your job? Struggling with what to do about work-family conflict,” kept you up at nights”? Couldn’t deal with the guilt of giving up the career, or of not being a good mother?
A friend of mine called asking for advise. She has a stable career, with good working environment plus receiving great benefits for her and the family. Suddenly considering to focus on being a stay-at-home mom?
To begin with, I admire women who can stay at home and raise their kids full time. Some may say, that is a wonderful luxury to have the choice.
As I weigh things over and over….. these came across to my mind. Some factors you need to consider (for and against). Anyway, there’s always joy of creating a well-run, balanced home for family.
1. Mothers want to stay employed when:
a. they find work interesting.
b. it provides a sense of accomplishment.
c. it allows a good job-family balance.
d. it garners recognition and respect.
e. it includes the possilbility for advancement.
f. it can improve their family’s social position.
2. Money plays an important role and mothers want to find work that pays what they consider a fair wage for their efforts. Even though mothers emphasize monetary needs, money is not the driving force behind their workforce decisions. Mothers work for far more complicated reasons than money alone.
3. Mothers should be the caretakers of their children because no one do as good a job as a parent.
4. Take note, everybody has a very strong opinion. There’s no way to escape criticism. People look down on you if you do work, people look down on you if you don’t.
Remember, the choices you make are for your family, rather than for yourself. At the end of the day, it’s your call. If you can practice “juggling it all” then go for it.
As I journey through motherhood, I would like to share a bible passage, something to reflect on about the wife of Noble Character- The Excellent Wife. Hope you ponder on this.
New International Version (NIV)
Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character
10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. 11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. 12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. 13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. 14 She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. 15 She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. 16 She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. 17 She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. 18 She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. 19 In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. 20 She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. 21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. 22 She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. 24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. 25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. 26 She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. 27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 29 “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” 30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. 31 Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.